THE STEPS TO STRESS REDUCTION
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Chapter 34. Rejection or Acceptance of Feelings From Without (Can They Take It?)

 

When you have chosen Stress Option A or B and your Receptor has chosen to:
Reject, then return to Step 1 (Recognize your feelings over the rejection) and retry Step 2 and Step 3.
Note: do not repeat your original expression of feelings. Go with the flow and keep current! Express your feelings over the rejection!
Reject every attempt you make, then return to Step 1 and retry step 2 and Step 3 with Exit.

Accept, then continue to Step 5 (Affection)

 

Ever Felt Rejected? You Only Think You Have

Rejection isn't a feeling but a fact of life! Believe it or not, you don't "feel" rejected. You "think" or you "know" you are rejected. You "feel" angry over the rejection.

The next time you "feel" rejected, it's time to get good and honest with yourself and recognize your anger! Remember, that which you cannot see you cannot control! That which you cannot control is in control! That which is in control makes you an accident looking for a place to happen!

 
"But Why Can't People Be Accepting of My Feelings?"

A happy person is an accepting person. Some people are simply too unhappy (angry) to be accepting! They're received so little love, acceptance and affection from their Primarys they simply don't know how to be loving, accepting and affectionate with others. They'd love to have their cup overflowing with happiness but they've never learned to empty out their anger. Whatever happiness does come their way simply gets diluted by their anger. Regardless of how lovingly you express your feelings and how well you assume responsibility for them and take them "off the hook", some people reject. They just can't seem to take it!

Avoid making another person's problem your own! Avoid taking rejection personally. Remember, it's impossible for anyone to be angry with you as a person, only what you think, do or say that reminds them of their Primary and that's not your fault! Your privilege is to choose Stress Option A or B when under stress and your responsibility is to avoid choosing Stress Option C and D! You can be angry and still make the right choice! That's using your anger in a positive and constructive way!

 

Next: Knowing When To Stop

 

Stress Reduction Through Honesty in Communication by John Twelker, Copyright 1986, John Twelker Enterprises, Inc.