Chapter
40. Remember, the Risk is Rejection While the Reward is Happiness!
Immediately after the move is made toward affection
one of two things can happen. You will either:
Accept your desire for affection and enjoy it, or
Reject
your desire for affection and be threatened by it.
Whatever you think, say or do will fit into one of
these two responses. There are no other alternatives!
At the same time, one of two things can happen with
the Receptor. They will either:
Accept your affection and their desire for it also and
enjoy it, or
Reject
your affection and be threatened by it.
Whatever the Receptor thinks, says or does will fit
into one of these two responses. There are no other alternatives!
Combining these alternatives results in three possible
responses:
Response One: If you accept your desire
for affection and enjoy it, and your Receptor accepts your affection
and also their desire for it and enjoys it, you will continue
on to Step 7, The Goal With Stress Symptoms Under Control or
Alleviated.
Response
Two: If you accept your desire for affection and enjoy it,
but your Receptor rejects your affection and also their desire
for it and is threatened by it, either
A. Your happiness will be on top, your anger over their
inability to accept your affection will be handled appropriately
and you will continue on to Step 7 regardless of their response,
or,
B.
Your fear and anger will be in control and you will perceive yourself
as being rejected, you will take that rejection personally and
you will return to Step 1 and Retry, or default to the Starting
Point.
Response Three: If you reject your desire for affection and are
threatened by it, you will Return to Step 1 and retry or default to
the Starting Point., even if your Receptor accepts your affection
and also their desire for it and enjoys it.
Mutual acceptance of affection (Response One) or your
unilateral acceptance of affection (Response Two A) will move you
on to Step 7 but your rejection of affection (Response Two B or Response
Three) will always cause a Return to Step 1 for Retry or default to
the Starting Point.
Next:
What To Do If the Rejection Comes From Within
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